For couples who keep missing the beat.
Couples therapy in Layton, Utah, and online throughout Utah.
Every couple has a dance. In yours, one of you steps forward to close the distance, and the other steps back for air. The harder one pursues, the farther the other retreats.
Then the music gets louder. Defensiveness comes in on the next beat, and a small question lands wrong and turns into a fight. You end up on opposite sides of the floor, each feeling alone.
You both want the same thing: to feel seen and loved by each other. Every effort to get there makes it worse. The apology sounds like blame, and the space you give looks like walking out.
Later, your heart refuses to slow down while the conversation plays back in your head. Under every misstep sits a fear neither of you says out loud: being too much, not enough, or not lovable.
The dance between you can change, and it starts by slowing it down.
Change starts when we slow things down to assess safety, physical and emotional, so your body can stay present. Sometimes that means boundaries, regulating emotions, or healing wounded parts of yourself.
Connection grows as you each create safety for yourself, let go of the outcomes, and let your partner see you. From there, you make decisions that fit your values. Healing begins where self-abandonment ends.
I draw on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and the Gottman Method. Each of you learns to interrupt your own part in the dance, and together you learn new steps.
Be fully yourself and fully in love at the same time.
We learn your story and your patterns. I assess what keeps the dance going, from boundary issues and unresolved trauma to fear and attachment patterns, then we build a plan.
You’ll see why you move the way you do.
Each of you connects more deeply with yourself and takes responsibility for your own steps. Together you practice connection, repair, and closeness.
The new steps start to feel like yours.
You decide with confidence how to move forward, and you keep practicing healing and deep connection outside the therapy room.
The two of you lead the dance now.
When things heat up in session, I stay calm and non-reactive, so you both have room to slow down.
Over 15 years in the mental health field, I’ve published research on relationships and taught graduate courses in couples and family therapy.
Using EFT, IFS, and the Gottman Method, I help each of you heal your own hurt as part of the couples work.
The three most powerful words I know are, “I believe you.” Then comes the work of assuring safety, deepening connection, and helping you courageously live your values.
In over 15 years in the mental health field, I’ve published research on relationships and taught graduate courses in couples and family therapy. You’ll find me in person in Layton and Lehi, and online throughout Utah.
Here, your thoughts matter. Your emotions matter. You matter.
That’s a common place to start. Early sessions move slowly, so your partner can see how I work and help set the pace.
Then we slow down right there. Seeing the dance in the room lets me show you both your steps while it still feels safe.
That depends on the plan we build in the first phase, and assessment gives us that picture early.
Yes. Monogamous, non-monogamous, polyamorous, religious, and non-religious couples are welcome, and I’m a sex-positive LGBTQ+ ally with Safe Zone training.
Each of you does your own work here, with curiosity and care, and the change belongs to you both.
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The floor is the same one. One of you still steps forward, and the other still needs a breath. With practice, you learn to recognize the step, slow it down, and find your way back to each other.
Your heart can slow down. The question in the back of your mind, “how long will this last?”, grows quieter as you start to feel safe, seen, and connected with your partner.
Problems will still come, and you can meet them together. Reach out for a free 15-minute consultation to talk about the dance between you.
Same two people, same floor, and now you’re moving in step.
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Services are billed on a session-by-session basis.
We provide superbills for insurance reimbursement and accept HSA/FSA.
No hidden fees – all costs are explained before you begin.
